Miscommunications and Abstraction language

One thing I have noticed about my words lately is that they are full of abstract language. Sentences like,
"He always does this," or "She never gets anything right!" are two forms of abstract language that have very lately come from my mouth.

I need to start developing a form of communication that is free from these abstractions and yet specific towards a perticular problem. If there is a missed opportunity and a frusteration, it's usually equated to that other person's inner problems. If I do the same thing, it's because of an outside influence. (Fundamental Attribution Error)

Lately I've tried to assume the best if a person is late, attribute that persons lateness to some outside force rather than inside, and then move on to more clarifing language after listening carefully to the persons response. Who knew interpersonal communication would take so much work!